Sunday, May 25, 2014

Poignant tales from everyday life


By Aparna Basu in Mail Today: Link: http://epaper.mailtoday.in/showtext.aspx?boxid=15440875&parentid=94236&issuedate=2552014

THE STORIES in this slim, elegantly produced volume deal with the lives of middle class urban women, a few with men and a couple of stories are of young boys, not over a period as in a novel but go into the immediate moment. The characters are portrayed so vividly that the reader feels she has actually met them in real life.

A theme in several of the stories is the suppressed feelings and unfulfilled ambitions of women in a patriarchal society where the women’s voice is not heard. A young girl is marred off to a man as her family feels that “ as a District Magistrate’s wife she will live in comfort and without care”. Her nani told her, “ Give him time. It matures like pickle, love does. She was giving him time.” She painted but her husband never bothered to even look at her painting.

“He never said anything, never complained. He never smiled either”. But how much, she asked herself. Each day is a burden with nothing to look forward to. She sat all day looking at the Ganges.

And there is Damini bhabhi who is a slave to her mother- in law, whose every need she has to attend to and, in addition, she has to put up with a foolish but honest husband. She accepts her daily drudgery as her fate. When the mother- in law dies, Damini is at last free.

“She looked away and for the first time I heard her let loose from within a chuckling of great abandonment.” She used to spend hours performing puja every day, but after her newfound freedom, she said “ what need have I of God now”. All grooms in our matrimonial want “ fair complexioned” brides.

When their daughters are dark- skinned, parents worry as to where will they find boys who will marry them.


Rita’s family is much relieved when she, who is dark- skinned, is engaged to an IPS officer. “ I had visions of a different world, a world that came to me from dog- eared National Geographic and Life magazines, lands of adventure where one wore dresses and not yards of silk spun around legs yearning to get out of their closet feet.

But how could I talk of this to a fettered world of woman, one fettered by volition… They said I was getting bad tempered, too willful.” Rita agreed to the marriage but developed a secret relationship with their servant’s son; when this is discovered the engagement with the IPS officer is called off and she is married off to a tall, thin buck- toothed widower.

We are all familiar with a character like Professor Memsahib who spends her married life looking after every small need of her husband. “ She too liked spit and polish but whenever she talked of new sofa cover or some changing in the house, he would say — shush, I am preparing a paper. Never wanted to be disturbed… He worked with his brain, and what a fine brain, nothing must disturb its equilibrium”. Often she would read his name in the newspaper about some agreement he had refuted, but if she asked him, he would say: “ You won’t understand.” She had no identity of her own; she had been just an extension of the professor sahib and even after his death continued be called Professor Memsahib.

In this story there is a small error. “ I have in front of you Rashbehari Bose,” says her husband, “ There see him in the distance… This is the man who dressed as a Pathan escaped from prison.” Does the author mean Subhas Bose who escaped from his house detention as a Pathan? Twilight is a moving story of a woman in the last years of her life, living with her son and daughter- inlaw who resent having to care for her and are waiting for her to die.

She knows this and dreams of the days gone by, her beautiful garden and her husband who brought her flowers every day. Equally evocative is the opening story of the little boy Chhotu living in filth and poverty under a Delhi flyover.
These boys make their living by collecting rags or picking pockets.

Chhotu is caught and handed over to the police who beat him mercilessly. “ The newspaper gave it in small print; death of yet another minor in police custody.” The stories are set in Indian cities and deal with situations most of us are familiar with and can relate to. There are no post- modern, post- apocalyptic settings.

The stories are written in an easy flowing language, thus making them extremely readable and enjoyable to one and all.

The reviewer is Chairperson of the National Gandhi Museum

Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Gurus, Gas & Indian democracy

India needs all the benevolent gurus, rishis, holy spirits of the past to smile upon Indian democracy, so we can separate it from the tissue of lies that our governments in cohorts with immoral businessmen have told us, the unseeing public,  for the last 40 years. The rampant rape and exploitation of our natural resources by the chosen few, will heap retribution from an assaulted earth. Finally the rule of Cause and Effect cannot be avoided---as you sow, so shall you reap. No act of evil goes un noticed--as they say, the wheel of universal law moves slowly, but finally none can escape it--no I am not talking about the natural gas in the KG Basin or of Reliance, but if you, the dear reader of my blog, should choose to think that, who am I to stop you?

Monday, January 20, 2014

Delhi's Statehood--for real or a gimmick?

What the TV pundits are saying is that---"Desh Chalana or Andolan Chalana dono alagh baat hain"---But AAP Protesters are replying---Is that So?

There is something reminiscent of the Salt Satyagraha as one Commentator put it on TV--the romanticism of protest---but the moot point is, he continues, where should it end?

I ask you dear reader--where do you think this should end? 

Question: Can an idealist and agitator--transform himself into an able and wily administrator? Is Congress going to be the only incarnation of the latter, and hence the only able ruler in Indian democracy? Then are we saying that AAP and Congress are two faces of the same coin--One Protests ably (AAP) which the other (Congress) no longer has the moral force to do so; the other governs ably (Congress) which the AAP finds itself ill suited for?

I don't know---only time will tell what this " dharna"  will achieve. I for one, do not believe it is a manipulated political gimmick, though without a sense of political timing, no astute politician can win, but that doesn't necessarily ascribe it to gimmickry.

There is something more churning and TV political Pundits are missing it.


Thursday, January 9, 2014

Can we have a more intelligent TV media before Lok Sabha Polls

What more distinct pleasure can there be than to listen to a good TV debate on a cold winter evening. But alas our TV anchors, barring a few like Akhtar Khan of News X--don't make the grade for compelling news anchors, despite the decibels, the eye wear, the designer sarees, the curated kurtas. 

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

Kejriwal Debt to Civil Society

Let us not forget, or rather let not AAP forget, that their victory is based on the seeds planted by these last 2-3 decades of Civil Society efforts, NGO's, Activists, Political commentators, people who wielded pen, money, voice and might to speak out against Pollution, Population, perceived External and Internal dangers, Corruption and Ill governance, and what have you, preparing a fertile ground for this movement of IAC to take shape into a political party. I want to hear Arvind Kejriwal acknowledge that debt loudly and clearly.